A major disaster can be frightening for children and teens. Fortunately, most children are quite resilient – even those who are impacted by a major disaster. Parents, teachers and other caring adults can help by listening and answering children’s questions in an honest and supportive manner.
Allowing children to ask questions and believe that their concerns are being heard is important. It can reduce their stress and the risk of long-lasting emotional difficulties. Allow children to "own" their feelings. These may be difficult conversations, but they are important. There is no "right" or "wrong" way to talk with children about a traumatic event. It is important for parents to recognize the common reactions children and teens can experience after a traumatic event so they can respond accordingly. They can include:
Trouble sleeping, having nightmares, or not wanting to sleep alone
Having no feelings at all or feeling numb
A lack of energy or feeling exhausted all the time
Very young children may become clingy, fearful, have tantrums, or resume behaviors such as bedwetting or thumb-sucking
School aged kids may get into fights, socially isolate, or have trouble with schoolwork
Adolescents and teens may use alcohol, tobacco, drugs or prescription medications to try to cope
Complaining of headaches, stomachaches, or muscle aches often
· Trouble concentrating or feeling confused How to Help Children and Teens Cope
Children and teens need to feel a sense of safety during difficult times. One way is to explain to children that there are people helping to keep the community safe. It is an opportunity to show children that when something scary happens, there are people to help. Spending time together as a family is another way to create safety because it provides an opportunity to talk and share. Here are additional strategies:
Create and follow daily routines so your child knows what to expect.
Avoid extended separations from your child. If you must be separated for a period of time, have your child stay with familiar people in a familiar environment.
Let your child make choices over small things throughout the day to help them feel in control. This can include choices over what they eat or wear or how they play.
Engage in positive activities together where you give your child undivided attention.
Help your child process nervousness, stress, or frustration through activities such as stretching, running, sports, and deep breathing exercises.
Set an example by taking care of yourself, making time for stress management activities, and discussing your own emotions and reactions with a loved one or mental health professional.
Limit your child’s access to media coverage of the event, and monitor their use of television, radio, internet, and social media.
Supporting children through this period can be daunting. But it is important to remember that the emotions and feelings children experience following a major disaster will often go away on their own and will not seriously impact their development and well-being.
If you think your child needs professional help, do not hesitant to contact Cypress Wellness Center. Our therapists are here to help! Resources for Help: Go here to find out how you can give and receive help. Written By: Jennifer Gonzalez
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